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Working with Coaching Clients with Low Self-esteem

Working with clients who have self-esteem issues can be very You are loved and acceptedchallenging. The need to pace the client’s world becomes essential as vulnerable people can feel overwhelmed by “too positive” an attitude from the Coach Practitioner.

Carl Rogers suggested that the relationship between client and therapist is the single most important factor for change and healing. He coined the term “unconditional positive regard”. This translates very easily into a coaching context where many clients seek help in improving their lives. Coaching is a good option for someone not deemed to need therapy but is still wanting to find more meaning and contentment in their lives

I have used this approach with both Coaching NLP and Hypnotherapy. Drawing on the work of my own mentor, Julie Silverthorn and her work at Neuroenergetics. It was here that she co-developed Humanistic NLP. HNLP and iNLP (Intrinsic NLP co-developed with Julie, Joe and I) have developed the idea of unconditional positive regard further with the concept of “positive internal representations”.

 We hold internal representations of ourselves and others, the nature of these representations impacts on how we feel and behave. They also support and reinforce any linked beliefs we hold. For example, if we have a negative internal representation of ourselves we may also have beliefs about low self-worth or may believe we lack ability in the field linked to a specific internal representation.

There is value in transforming negative internal representations into positive ones and to some degree this is simply a decision to change it. However, we need to also check the positive intention behind the original representation.

 How we feel, think and behave about another person creates our ongoing experience of that person. It becomes essential for you, as a coach to be able to hold a positive internal representation of your client in order for them to have the environment they need to thrive.

 I am running two workshops on behalf of the Association for Coaching that include this topic and other Positive Psychological Approaches. The first is in London on 29th September and I will be repeating the same workshop in Sheffield in October.

 Follow the link below for more information.




Questioning skills using the NLP language pattern, Meta Model

IMG_4174_edited-2Today I am following on from my recent blog introducing the use of NLP in Coaching and the focus this time is on the Meta Model.
The Meta Model was identified in the early days of NLP from observations of two leading therapists of that time, Virginia Satir and Fritz Perls. From observation Grinder et al noticed that both therapists used a particular linguistic pattern when asking questions. Both therapists asked questions that invited the client to gain clarity about the presenting issue.
In many ways this model has become the foundation of non-directive coaching and yet this source is often overlooked. NLP adds value by producing a well-defined framework that can be used to design elegant questions. The Meta Model is non-directive and allows the client to find their own solutions by discovering new perspectives.
A key component to this approach is focusing on process rather than content. Instead of asking the client for historical data about an issue we might ask questions that begin to loosen their attachment to an issue.
Most NLP Trainers and Master Trainers will spend a considerable amount of time teaching this model as there are many levels and refinements. In my next blog I will share a small case study showing what questions could be asked using the meta- model.
If you would like to find out more about NLP I offer free one day introduction workshops. Do come and join me.

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Using NLP in Coaching

As an NLP Master Trainer and the trainer of an Association for Coaching accredited Diploma I believe there is a value in clarifying how NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) adds to the field of Wisperia imagecoaching.
Over the next few weeks I will write a series of blogs firstly mapping out how each fits with the other and then secondly focusing in on some specific NLP tools and some ideas on how to use them.

Coaching as a field is on a different logical level to NLP. What I mean by that is that NLP provides a series of tools that can be used within coaching along with other disciplines such as Solution Focused Therapy, TA etc. Coaching does not really have a separate identity or definition although it could be argued there are specialisations.
nlp101logoNLP was originally based on a modelling project focusing on three primary subjects from the therapy field, Virginia Satir, Milton Erickson and Fritz Perls. From this modelling project emerged many of the tools that are used on a daily basis by many coaches including rapport, calibration, re-framing, questioning skills and perceptual positions. None of these were really new however they were collated into a useful framework.
In the next few weeks I will share more detail including how I incorporate some specific aspects of NLP into my coaching Diploma “Psychological Approaches to Coaching” and how my four day NLP Diploma can also provide a useful platform for coaches.

Positive Psychology in Practice – Guest Speaker at Cambridge Association for Coaches

Here is a date for your diary. I will be speaking at an Association for Coaching event on 28th April 2016 on the topic of Positive Psychology. The details are below plus a link to the AC website so you can book a ticket.

Click here for more details and to book

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Have you ever wondered what Positive Psychology offers practically?

Would you like to know how your inner state impacts on your client’s ability to change?

How useful would it be to you to learn how to apply Positive Psychology to your coaching practice?

This workshop provides you with an understanding of Positive Psychology and how to apply it in your everyday practice. There will be a number of easy to use tools introduced plus some links to other disciplines such as NLP and TA.


Melody has a degree in Psychology, an MSc in Applied Positive Psychology, diploma in Psychotherapy and is an NLP Master Practitioner and Certified NLP Master Trainer. She is part of the external verification panel for the ANLP accreditation programme. Her Psychological Approaches to Coaching course is accredited by the Association for Coaching.

She regularly speaks at national conferences and has presented her dissertation research, NLP and self-esteem, at an international research conference. Her work was published in an academic journal as a result. She is also the co-author of the popular book, ‘The Model Presenter’.

She has also taught Positive Psychology as visiting lecturer at the University of East London. Melody also served on a working party in the EMCC over ten years ago. The working party was exploring coaching competencies.
This workshop is eligible for CPD and a Certificate will be emailed to you following the event.

Free taster day AC accredited coach training

Wisperia imageAre you interested in training to become an Accredited Coach?
Or maybe you already work as a coach and want to expand your knowledge..
Either way you are welcome to attend our free one day introduction workshop to find out more about our Association for Coaching Accredited Diploma course:
Psychological Approaches to Coaching led by Melody Cheal MSc Psychology & NLP Master Trainer.
What are the benefits of attending?
 Find out more about the content of our Accredited Diploma and if coaching is for you.
 Gain an understanding of the foundation for coaching
 Discover the difference between coaching, mentoring and other disciplines.
 Pick up some useful tools to apply right away.
 Gain a CPD (Continuous Professional Development) certificate for 6 hours of training.
 Check that Melody’s training style is a fit for you.
 Meet and network with people who share your interest.

When is the free taster day?
The free event is scheduled for Thursday, 21st January 2016. Places are limited and we only have a few places left so do book early.
Where is the free one day introduction course held?
We hold the introduction event and the full course at our own purpose built venue on the edge of the magnificent Ashdown Forest, a national park of outstanding beauty. Ashdown Forest is the original home of Winnie the Pooh!
The venue address is Oakhurst, Marden’s Hill, Crowborough, East Sussex TN6 1XL
How do I book a place?

Contact Melody direct to book a place or to get further information.
Call 01892 309 205 or email

Do you want a little more information before you decide?
Here is a brief overview:
The programme is designed to allow learners time to reflect, consolidate and practice between modules. Each module is three days in length and includes supervised coaching practice with feedback.
For experienced coaches there is the opportunity to dip into the programme and attend individual modules. As this course is accredited by the Association for Coaches the modules can be used as CPD.
The modules are:
 Foundations in Coaching
 Transactional Analysis for Coaches
 There’s more going on than you think!
 Working with a values map

For more details request a course prospectus by emailing
Learners will be expected to complete pre-work before each module and once the course has commenced practice coaching to consolidate learning. Modules 2 to 4 will include time for learners to present coaching cases for supervision. All students will need to have cases to present.
For new coaches not yet in practice guidance and support will be given on how to practice ethically and safely during training.
Can I book a place on the Diploma without attending the free workshop?
Yes, you can. If you are unable to attend the free day or already know that this course is for you contact Melody direct on 01892 309 205 or email
Are you ready to book your free place on the introduction workshop?

Contact Melody direct to book a place or to get further information.
Call 01892 309 205 or email