Questioning skills using the NLP language pattern, Meta Model

IMG_4174_edited-2Today I am following on from my recent blog introducing the use of NLP in Coaching and the focus this time is on the Meta Model.
The Meta Model was identified in the early days of NLP from observations of two leading therapists of that time, Virginia Satir and Fritz Perls. From observation Grinder et al noticed that both therapists used a particular linguistic pattern when asking questions. Both therapists asked questions that invited the client to gain clarity about the presenting issue.
In many ways this model has become the foundation of non-directive coaching and yet this source is often overlooked. NLP adds value by producing a well-defined framework that can be used to design elegant questions. The Meta Model is non-directive and allows the client to find their own solutions by discovering new perspectives.
A key component to this approach is focusing on process rather than content. Instead of asking the client for historical data about an issue we might ask questions that begin to loosen their attachment to an issue.
Most NLP Trainers and Master Trainers will spend a considerable amount of time teaching this model as there are many levels and refinements. In my next blog I will share a small case study showing what questions could be asked using the meta- model.
If you would like to find out more about NLP I offer free one day introduction workshops. Do come and join me.

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Using NLP in Coaching

As an NLP Master Trainer and the trainer of an Association for Coaching accredited Diploma I believe there is a value in clarifying how NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) adds to the field of Wisperia imagecoaching.
Over the next few weeks I will write a series of blogs firstly mapping out how each fits with the other and then secondly focusing in on some specific NLP tools and some ideas on how to use them.

Coaching as a field is on a different logical level to NLP. What I mean by that is that NLP provides a series of tools that can be used within coaching along with other disciplines such as Solution Focused Therapy, TA etc. Coaching does not really have a separate identity or definition although it could be argued there are specialisations.
nlp101logoNLP was originally based on a modelling project focusing on three primary subjects from the therapy field, Virginia Satir, Milton Erickson and Fritz Perls. From this modelling project emerged many of the tools that are used on a daily basis by many coaches including rapport, calibration, re-framing, questioning skills and perceptual positions. None of these were really new however they were collated into a useful framework.
In the next few weeks I will share more detail including how I incorporate some specific aspects of NLP into my coaching Diploma “Psychological Approaches to Coaching” and how my four day NLP Diploma can also provide a useful platform for coaches.

Positive Psychology in Practice – Guest Speaker at Cambridge Association for Coaches

Here is a date for your diary. I will be speaking at an Association for Coaching event on 28th April 2016 on the topic of Positive Psychology. The details are below plus a link to the AC website so you can book a ticket.

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Have you ever wondered what Positive Psychology offers practically?

Would you like to know how your inner state impacts on your client’s ability to change?

How useful would it be to you to learn how to apply Positive Psychology to your coaching practice?

This workshop provides you with an understanding of Positive Psychology and how to apply it in your everyday practice. There will be a number of easy to use tools introduced plus some links to other disciplines such as NLP and TA.


Melody has a degree in Psychology, an MSc in Applied Positive Psychology, diploma in Psychotherapy and is an NLP Master Practitioner and Certified NLP Master Trainer. She is part of the external verification panel for the ANLP accreditation programme. Her Psychological Approaches to Coaching course is accredited by the Association for Coaching.

She regularly speaks at national conferences and has presented her dissertation research, NLP and self-esteem, at an international research conference. Her work was published in an academic journal as a result. She is also the co-author of the popular book, ‘The Model Presenter’.

She has also taught Positive Psychology as visiting lecturer at the University of East London. Melody also served on a working party in the EMCC over ten years ago. The working party was exploring coaching competencies.
This workshop is eligible for CPD and a Certificate will be emailed to you following the event.